After my post yesterday, I received two emails asking me the same question: "I know I am giving my power to someone else but how to I stop giving them power?"
Thank you so much for asking the question and for the inspiration. That is exactly what today's audio is going to be about.
I know from experience that giving up your power to others is a habit and it's very hard to break. This is a process, it does not happen overnight but you can begin to create change overnight.
I am going to walk you through the process that I am including in the audio. Remember, you agree to take total responsibility for your physical and emotional well being by following along with this process.
You must first look at where you are giving up your power. Maybe it is to a situation or a person or both. It's likely you will find many layers to this. Like an onion you will peel away the layers until you get to the core of it all but each step will give you more power over your own life.
For the tapping audio, I am going to ask you to pick ONE person who still has power in your life. Now remember a single situation if you can (the more specific you can be the better results you will find) that resulted in this person still having power in your life today. Now, allow yourself to feel it. The more you feel the better, as you go through the audio this should bring the intensity down unless you are triggering something else or another aspect of the situation. On a scale of 1-10, 1 being not really feeling it and 10
I'd like you to give this a title. Imagine there is a movie in your head of this person and situation and give it a title. If this was a movie what would you call it?
What this tapping audio will do is help you neutralize some of the emotion around these things and see them a little more clearly. It will not change what happened, it will not change the person, what it should help you do is change how you respond to it. How you respond to a past or even present hurt determines if you give your power away to that person or if you choose to own your power and not allow it to run your life now.
If you are unfamilar with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and tapping, there is a video below with that points. Remember you don't have to be perfect in this, get as close as you can and you will still get the effects of it.
The audio is below the video.
Audio
Live With Passion
~Bel
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Monday, June 24, 2013
Does Your Past Define Your Present?
I wasn't actually going to post today as I am unable to make an audio that would not include a very scratchy voice and probably a bunch of coughing and sniffling. My allergies are off the charts today, so I was going to wait until tomorrow but I was inspired by a Facebook post today, so you at least get my thoughts today.
The post posed the question: What do you want your business to reflect about you. I thought about it for a moment then I knew without a doubt what that was. I want my business and my life to reflect that I am not defined by my past. I had all the cliche's in my head, about being fabulous, sexy, sensual, etc... but for me all of those things actually require not allowing my past to dictate my present.
I can appreciate that we all have some pretty awful stuff in our past but we have a choice as to how we respond to those things in our present. What really makes me cringe are statements such as "I'm like this because I was abused, he cheated on me or anything else that keeps us in the past and involve things that at the end of the day had everything to do with the perpetrator and not ourselves. I did NOT force anyone to abuse me, cheat on me, lie to me, etc... The only part I played in that was how I responded to it all and often my response was not a healthy one in which I created more of the same.
Giving my past power in my present also means giving power to those who have hurt me. It's doubtful that any of those people even think of me any longer and they certainly are not living their life around me. So, why on earth would I want to live my life based on their bad behavior?
One of the worst things I have ever done to myself was punishing myself for the bad behavior of others. The most recent had to do with allowing others close to me, specifically men. My history with men is not exactly my finest example of strength, good choices, etc... and I can sit and cry all day about how I was wronged OR I can live my life and make better choices as I move forward. Not trust any man, not allowing one close, not giving myself a chance to find out there is the right person out there for me, is punishing myself. My ex has moved on, remarried and has a life that does not include me. Yet, for several years, I lived my life according to his bad behavior. I shut myself down, would not allow any man who really might want a real relationship anywhere near me and filled my basic needs with the occasional friends with benefits. It was fun but highly unsatisfying. This was how I responded to my ex husband cheating. The cheating was his issue, not mine. I didn't cheat; HE did. One day it hit me. I am preventing myself from having true and total happiness in my life because HE behaved badly. HE is still controlling my life and he isn't even giving me a second thought. The minute this became clear, I found myself really angry at myself for being so foolish. I couldn't be mad at him, because he had nothing to do with the choices I was making.
I am slowly putting myself back in the dating world. It's new, it's scary but it's full of fun and adventure. No, the first man I met and dated did not turn out to be my happily ever after but he did help me clarify what I did want and also helped me expand the very small box I had put myself in. I am open to much more for myself, I am having fun and yes, occasionally I do something totally dumb but now, I am OK with all of those things. The mistakes I make are MINE.
Whatever happened to you in the past does not have to define who or what you are today. If you are still living in a way that ends with a sentence such as "I can't because something bad happened to me", then you are giving the power and control of your life over to someone else. Take control of your life and let those who hurt deal with their own present, it is no longer yours to carry.
Live With Passion
~Bel
The post posed the question: What do you want your business to reflect about you. I thought about it for a moment then I knew without a doubt what that was. I want my business and my life to reflect that I am not defined by my past. I had all the cliche's in my head, about being fabulous, sexy, sensual, etc... but for me all of those things actually require not allowing my past to dictate my present.
I can appreciate that we all have some pretty awful stuff in our past but we have a choice as to how we respond to those things in our present. What really makes me cringe are statements such as "I'm like this because I was abused, he cheated on me or anything else that keeps us in the past and involve things that at the end of the day had everything to do with the perpetrator and not ourselves. I did NOT force anyone to abuse me, cheat on me, lie to me, etc... The only part I played in that was how I responded to it all and often my response was not a healthy one in which I created more of the same.
Giving my past power in my present also means giving power to those who have hurt me. It's doubtful that any of those people even think of me any longer and they certainly are not living their life around me. So, why on earth would I want to live my life based on their bad behavior?
One of the worst things I have ever done to myself was punishing myself for the bad behavior of others. The most recent had to do with allowing others close to me, specifically men. My history with men is not exactly my finest example of strength, good choices, etc... and I can sit and cry all day about how I was wronged OR I can live my life and make better choices as I move forward. Not trust any man, not allowing one close, not giving myself a chance to find out there is the right person out there for me, is punishing myself. My ex has moved on, remarried and has a life that does not include me. Yet, for several years, I lived my life according to his bad behavior. I shut myself down, would not allow any man who really might want a real relationship anywhere near me and filled my basic needs with the occasional friends with benefits. It was fun but highly unsatisfying. This was how I responded to my ex husband cheating. The cheating was his issue, not mine. I didn't cheat; HE did. One day it hit me. I am preventing myself from having true and total happiness in my life because HE behaved badly. HE is still controlling my life and he isn't even giving me a second thought. The minute this became clear, I found myself really angry at myself for being so foolish. I couldn't be mad at him, because he had nothing to do with the choices I was making.
I am slowly putting myself back in the dating world. It's new, it's scary but it's full of fun and adventure. No, the first man I met and dated did not turn out to be my happily ever after but he did help me clarify what I did want and also helped me expand the very small box I had put myself in. I am open to much more for myself, I am having fun and yes, occasionally I do something totally dumb but now, I am OK with all of those things. The mistakes I make are MINE.
Whatever happened to you in the past does not have to define who or what you are today. If you are still living in a way that ends with a sentence such as "I can't because something bad happened to me", then you are giving the power and control of your life over to someone else. Take control of your life and let those who hurt deal with their own present, it is no longer yours to carry.
Live With Passion
~Bel
Saturday, June 22, 2013
ME Day!
Rumor has it that Jupiter is moving into my 10th house astrologically (is that an actual word?). I am told this house is about our place in the world/work/career. Maybe that explains my sudden motivation to do everything at once. Not only am I getting ready to launch a couple of programs based around my EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) work, yes my lovely Goddesses, you are at the top of my list. I am also putting together a business based on a long time hobby of making bath and body products and I am writing again. Jupiter is about luck and expansion or so I am told and I intend to use it to the fullest of my advantage. I am not an Astrologer but I am happy to utilize anything the Universe chooses to send my way and that includes a bright, shiny Jupiter transit.
Of course with all of this going on, I have had to catch myself and remember to take time to have some fun and just take care of myself. For me one of the biggest things I have to keep in mind when I go into hypermode is to give my body what it needs. I can easily sit in front of the computer all day and write, etc... and not think about eating until my stomach is screaming so loud that the neighbors can hear it growl.
Over the past two weeks, I have started to make a point that when I get up in the morning to make my coffee, I also make a smoothie of some kind. Nothing fancy, just a bit of fruit (usually mangos from the freezer section), juice and a bit of protein/vitamin powder. This gives me the extra kick, I need in the morning and it kicks my metabolism into gear. I have also started keeping things in the fridge that I can just reach in and eat on the go. Grapes, individually wrapped cheese sticks, grape tomatoes, etc... which means I can eat many times a day, keep my metabolism moving and still keep writing or whatever it is that I am focused on in the moment.
This morning, I looked in the mirror and realized that my usual summer tan was no place to be found. I am pretty pale which is a bad thing because I just had my hair highlighted and I really love the way it looks but seriously, I need some color to really accent how it looks. I also noticed I was wearing gray yoga pants and a t-shirt. Not my best look and certainly my sign that I am not giving enough attention to myself and my needs. Yoga pants are the thing that I wear when I am too busy to take care of myself. My nails are mess, the color is chipped and peeling off (actually it's wearing off because it's been that long) and in general, I look frumpy!
I have decided, today is ME day. I can work if I choose, but I am taking me and my Nook reader outside and I am going to bask in the glorious sunshine and a good book. I might even call my niece to come over and do my nails for me. She is really wonderful with a camera, so many I'll have her take some photos as well.
It doesn't matter what I do, as long as I am taking care of all of me today. It's wonderful to be motivated but make sure that whatever it is you are doing, you remember to take care of yourself, body, mind and soul. As much as others might need you, you can't take care of anyone else if you haven't taken care of yourself first.
Live With Passion
`Bel
Of course with all of this going on, I have had to catch myself and remember to take time to have some fun and just take care of myself. For me one of the biggest things I have to keep in mind when I go into hypermode is to give my body what it needs. I can easily sit in front of the computer all day and write, etc... and not think about eating until my stomach is screaming so loud that the neighbors can hear it growl.
Over the past two weeks, I have started to make a point that when I get up in the morning to make my coffee, I also make a smoothie of some kind. Nothing fancy, just a bit of fruit (usually mangos from the freezer section), juice and a bit of protein/vitamin powder. This gives me the extra kick, I need in the morning and it kicks my metabolism into gear. I have also started keeping things in the fridge that I can just reach in and eat on the go. Grapes, individually wrapped cheese sticks, grape tomatoes, etc... which means I can eat many times a day, keep my metabolism moving and still keep writing or whatever it is that I am focused on in the moment.
This morning, I looked in the mirror and realized that my usual summer tan was no place to be found. I am pretty pale which is a bad thing because I just had my hair highlighted and I really love the way it looks but seriously, I need some color to really accent how it looks. I also noticed I was wearing gray yoga pants and a t-shirt. Not my best look and certainly my sign that I am not giving enough attention to myself and my needs. Yoga pants are the thing that I wear when I am too busy to take care of myself. My nails are mess, the color is chipped and peeling off (actually it's wearing off because it's been that long) and in general, I look frumpy!
I have decided, today is ME day. I can work if I choose, but I am taking me and my Nook reader outside and I am going to bask in the glorious sunshine and a good book. I might even call my niece to come over and do my nails for me. She is really wonderful with a camera, so many I'll have her take some photos as well.
It doesn't matter what I do, as long as I am taking care of all of me today. It's wonderful to be motivated but make sure that whatever it is you are doing, you remember to take care of yourself, body, mind and soul. As much as others might need you, you can't take care of anyone else if you haven't taken care of yourself first.
Live With Passion
`Bel
Friday, June 21, 2013
Scaring Teenage Boys Who Date My Niece: Setting The Example
My niece who will be 16 at the end of this month has a new boyfriend, whom I will meet this weekend. I had to laugh out loud when she said she was more worried about him meeting me than her dad. Mind you, my brother is color wearing, motorcycle riding, tattoo covered biker and he is awesome! The joke amongst our mutual friends is that he is the nice sibling. It's partly true. My brother is easy going, hard working, deep loving and fairly quiet. He let's most things slide off his back and he loves his daughter more than life itself.
I, on the other-hand, have a big mouth, I call it as I see it and if you mess with my brother, you will deal with me. I'm even worse when it comes to my girls; my 19 year old daughter and my niece. I've made mistakes in my life that cost me a very dear price and many of those mistakes involved who I would become for whatever man was in my life at the time. When I saw my daughter repeating those patterns, I swore to change something. I was determined to become the person that I wanted my daughter to look up and I began to make new choices. Never again would I give up my own identity for a man, never again would I make the masses happy at the expense of my own happiness, never again would I settle for less than anything that makes me completely happy.
Remember, our girls are watching us and the choices we make and they will follow in our footsteps in one manner or another. How we treat ourselves can't be any less than we would accept for them. Treat yourself with love, compassion, kindness, forgiveness and acceptance of who you are and they will learn to do the same. You will find in time that anything less no longer feels comfortable and you will be a living example of what making yourself matter is all about.
I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. I, will be explaining to a teenage boy that if he is afraid of my brother then he best treat my niece well or he will have me to contend with. I might mention that I used to beat up my brother who can appear scary to boys wanting to date his daughter.
Live With Passion ~Bel
I, on the other-hand, have a big mouth, I call it as I see it and if you mess with my brother, you will deal with me. I'm even worse when it comes to my girls; my 19 year old daughter and my niece. I've made mistakes in my life that cost me a very dear price and many of those mistakes involved who I would become for whatever man was in my life at the time. When I saw my daughter repeating those patterns, I swore to change something. I was determined to become the person that I wanted my daughter to look up and I began to make new choices. Never again would I give up my own identity for a man, never again would I make the masses happy at the expense of my own happiness, never again would I settle for less than anything that makes me completely happy.
Remember, our girls are watching us and the choices we make and they will follow in our footsteps in one manner or another. How we treat ourselves can't be any less than we would accept for them. Treat yourself with love, compassion, kindness, forgiveness and acceptance of who you are and they will learn to do the same. You will find in time that anything less no longer feels comfortable and you will be a living example of what making yourself matter is all about.
I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. I, will be explaining to a teenage boy that if he is afraid of my brother then he best treat my niece well or he will have me to contend with. I might mention that I used to beat up my brother who can appear scary to boys wanting to date his daughter.
Live With Passion ~Bel
Monday, June 17, 2013
Weight Gain: It's not about what you are putting you mouth but about what you are holding in your body
Most of us already know how cortisol plays a part in weight gain. The more stressed you are (physically or emotionally) the more the body releases and makes it difficult to lose weight. I am not an expert on how cortisol actually works or does not work. It is a necessary to our physical well being as healthy levels give us energy and stamina but in excess, I know it creates issues with weight. If you want more information you can either do a web search, ask your doctor (always a strong recommendation) or you can being here with this article. Again, I am NOT an expert in this category.
So, now for what I do know. I know I held onto about 40 additional pounds for years. I tried every diet under the sun and found I either did not lose weight or I gained it. I had two serious problems in my attempt to drop those pounds. First: Was my marriage. It was wrought with stress. I spent my days battling toxic in-laws in which my spouse generally ignored the dysfunctional behavior and the more it went on the more I felt that I did not matter. The marriage itself had a great deal of stress as I always felt I was trying to live up to some impossible goal of "good enough" and I ate about once a day.
When the marriage ended, I made a few conscious choices and one of them was to keep nutrition in my body. Under great stress, I had a habit of forgetting to eat and land myself in the ER being treated for dehydration and a undernourishment . I was NOT going to allow that to happen and make myself look weak to my then husband. Funny thing happened when I did that. The stress of the in-laws and the day to day with the husband was gone and I was giving my body much needed nutrition. I lost those forty pounds and ate whatever the heck I wanted. I also ate many times a day. This weight literally fell off of me and I wasn't even trying to drop pounds, I just wanted to maintain my dignity.
This was not only a valuable lesson but a wake up call. When one drops 40 lbs while eating mostly fast food and smoothies (I eat much better now) there is a very clear message. I heard that message and made a conscious choice to keep stress at bay as much as possible, treat myself better and feed not just my body but my soul.
Remember, the physical body has one purpose; To keep itself safe. So, when it was stressed and starved, it help onto every bit of protection that it could and in my case that was fat cells. What I ate at that time made little difference (eating that much fast food would not sit well with me now, because I have become way more conscious about also keeping my body healthy with real food). My weight was not about what I was eating but it was about what my body was holding.
My marriage certainly played a part in it but so did some very old wounds. My body knew nothing else but to be in fight or flight mode and it protected itself at all cost.
Part of my way of taking care of myself daily both body and soul is through EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). It helps me keep stress levels down, remain reasonable even when things are out of control and just feel good. The more I tap on the issues in my life the less I am inclined to eat and entire bag of Reese's cups or stuff my feelings with food (yes, I can do that as well). I feel good in my own body even if there are a couple of extra pounds from lack of activity in the winter and I feel good about myself.
I am including a tapping audio to help you begin to move stuck feelings. I am going to start releasing recordings on this blog every Monday. If you have a request or a suggestion for future audios feel free to email me.
More information about EFT, cortisol and tapping: http://www.zimbio.com/Emotional+Freedom+Techniques/articles/YiSrnY2DJKY/EFT+Tapping+Cortisol+Stress
Live With Passion
~Bel
So, now for what I do know. I know I held onto about 40 additional pounds for years. I tried every diet under the sun and found I either did not lose weight or I gained it. I had two serious problems in my attempt to drop those pounds. First: Was my marriage. It was wrought with stress. I spent my days battling toxic in-laws in which my spouse generally ignored the dysfunctional behavior and the more it went on the more I felt that I did not matter. The marriage itself had a great deal of stress as I always felt I was trying to live up to some impossible goal of "good enough" and I ate about once a day.
When the marriage ended, I made a few conscious choices and one of them was to keep nutrition in my body. Under great stress, I had a habit of forgetting to eat and land myself in the ER being treated for dehydration and a undernourishment . I was NOT going to allow that to happen and make myself look weak to my then husband. Funny thing happened when I did that. The stress of the in-laws and the day to day with the husband was gone and I was giving my body much needed nutrition. I lost those forty pounds and ate whatever the heck I wanted. I also ate many times a day. This weight literally fell off of me and I wasn't even trying to drop pounds, I just wanted to maintain my dignity.
This was not only a valuable lesson but a wake up call. When one drops 40 lbs while eating mostly fast food and smoothies (I eat much better now) there is a very clear message. I heard that message and made a conscious choice to keep stress at bay as much as possible, treat myself better and feed not just my body but my soul.
Remember, the physical body has one purpose; To keep itself safe. So, when it was stressed and starved, it help onto every bit of protection that it could and in my case that was fat cells. What I ate at that time made little difference (eating that much fast food would not sit well with me now, because I have become way more conscious about also keeping my body healthy with real food). My weight was not about what I was eating but it was about what my body was holding.
My marriage certainly played a part in it but so did some very old wounds. My body knew nothing else but to be in fight or flight mode and it protected itself at all cost.
Part of my way of taking care of myself daily both body and soul is through EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). It helps me keep stress levels down, remain reasonable even when things are out of control and just feel good. The more I tap on the issues in my life the less I am inclined to eat and entire bag of Reese's cups or stuff my feelings with food (yes, I can do that as well). I feel good in my own body even if there are a couple of extra pounds from lack of activity in the winter and I feel good about myself.
I am including a tapping audio to help you begin to move stuck feelings. I am going to start releasing recordings on this blog every Monday. If you have a request or a suggestion for future audios feel free to email me.
More information about EFT, cortisol and tapping: http://www.zimbio.com/Emotional+Freedom+Techniques/articles/YiSrnY2DJKY/EFT+Tapping+Cortisol+Stress
Live With Passion
~Bel
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
F*** YOU! Getting Honest With My Own Feelings
I am the first to admit that while I am a practitioner, I am not perfect and I still have to do my own work on a daily basis. This is one of those great big AHA moments for me.
I have been working a program by Margaret Lynch called the 7 Levels Of Wealth Manifestation. I am a person who lives and breathes the chakras and to be quite honest, I thought I had my chakras all figured out. WRONG!
I heard an interview with Margaret and knew I had to have this program. She addressed the chakras and how they actually function in day to day life and how the old stories/vows locked inside of them can block all aspects of your life. I needed this as I felt it could help me help my own clients and myself.
What I wasn't prepared for was this: As I tapped on old childhood issues, I was still totally NUMB. I could not bring up the feelings to save my life. I'm really good at beating myself up when I don't get things right and I was sure there was something wrong with me but I was noticing shifts in my life for the better anyway.
I continued working the program and kept going back through the chakras over and over. Each time something shifted and each time I found myself moving forward in a positive direction. Then while listening to one of the recording Margaret talked about F YOU tapping. I noticed even as she spoke about I could feel the anger bubbling up, so I tapped and I began F YOU'ing to anyone who came to mind even if if didn't make sense in the moment. I honored there had to be something subconscious if that person came up. I went to the issues of my childhood and the damn burst. Anger, rage, hurt, sadness all of it and I just kept tapping and telling those people what I thought of them, what they did, how it felt and how it still can hinder me as a grown woman.
I realized, I am really good at getting angry when someone hurts or wrongs someone I love but I wasn't valuing myself enough to feel those feelings for ME. I had learned through years of abuse to numb those feelings, to not really let myself totally feel them because there was nothing I could do to change things then. Now, I am safe. Now I am able to process those feelings and validate them for myself.
The day after I did this, I went to a party where normally, I would have stuck to my own crowd of friends because it was bit out of my comfort zone. This time, I actually spent little time with my usual crowd, made new friends and was asked by a couple I had not met before that night to officiate their wedding in September. (I am also an ordained minister who on occasion will pull that out and perform a wedding ceremony). The ability to feel these feelings address them and honor myself and my feelings in this shifted me for the better.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) work is not always pretty or easy but it is so worth it in the end.
While I will be integrating what I learn from this program into my own practice, if you want it from the master then I HIGHLY recommend that you invest in yourself and get this program from Margaret Lynch. Here is the link again: 7 Levels Of Wealth Manifestation
In the meantime remember that your feelings do count and are worth standing up for.
Live With Passion
~Bel
I have been working a program by Margaret Lynch called the 7 Levels Of Wealth Manifestation. I am a person who lives and breathes the chakras and to be quite honest, I thought I had my chakras all figured out. WRONG!
I heard an interview with Margaret and knew I had to have this program. She addressed the chakras and how they actually function in day to day life and how the old stories/vows locked inside of them can block all aspects of your life. I needed this as I felt it could help me help my own clients and myself.
What I wasn't prepared for was this: As I tapped on old childhood issues, I was still totally NUMB. I could not bring up the feelings to save my life. I'm really good at beating myself up when I don't get things right and I was sure there was something wrong with me but I was noticing shifts in my life for the better anyway.
I continued working the program and kept going back through the chakras over and over. Each time something shifted and each time I found myself moving forward in a positive direction. Then while listening to one of the recording Margaret talked about F YOU tapping. I noticed even as she spoke about I could feel the anger bubbling up, so I tapped and I began F YOU'ing to anyone who came to mind even if if didn't make sense in the moment. I honored there had to be something subconscious if that person came up. I went to the issues of my childhood and the damn burst. Anger, rage, hurt, sadness all of it and I just kept tapping and telling those people what I thought of them, what they did, how it felt and how it still can hinder me as a grown woman.
I realized, I am really good at getting angry when someone hurts or wrongs someone I love but I wasn't valuing myself enough to feel those feelings for ME. I had learned through years of abuse to numb those feelings, to not really let myself totally feel them because there was nothing I could do to change things then. Now, I am safe. Now I am able to process those feelings and validate them for myself.
The day after I did this, I went to a party where normally, I would have stuck to my own crowd of friends because it was bit out of my comfort zone. This time, I actually spent little time with my usual crowd, made new friends and was asked by a couple I had not met before that night to officiate their wedding in September. (I am also an ordained minister who on occasion will pull that out and perform a wedding ceremony). The ability to feel these feelings address them and honor myself and my feelings in this shifted me for the better.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) work is not always pretty or easy but it is so worth it in the end.
While I will be integrating what I learn from this program into my own practice, if you want it from the master then I HIGHLY recommend that you invest in yourself and get this program from Margaret Lynch. Here is the link again: 7 Levels Of Wealth Manifestation
In the meantime remember that your feelings do count and are worth standing up for.
Live With Passion
~Bel
Monday, May 27, 2013
Breaking The Rules Of The Good Girl Manual: Living Life On My Terms
After a very long hiatus from dating and relationships, I recently decided it was time to open myself up to meeting someone new into my life. Terrified is a tame word for how I felt even thinking about this.
First, I tried a dating site that simply made me cringe. For me there has to be a connection with someone a "real time/real life" connection. Online dating felt more like a job interview and quite honestly, I went on one date and was done with it.
It probably didn't help that I had a specific age group in mind along with about a million other things. A couple of month back I was a asked out by someone significantly younger than myself and to my greater surprise, I agreed. I had sworn, I would never ever be a "cougar". While this did not turn into happily ever after, it was a wonderful experience with a wonderful man to whom I owe a huge debt of gratitude. He treated me well, I had a great deal of fun and in the end we parted on very good terms.
Not long after I met him, I was expressing all of my worries and my assumption that this would be a good time for a short time because there is no way someone so much younger could possibly be interested in someone my age for anything serious. The joy of really good friends is they call you on your crap. My friend asked me "WHY would you be so set on a relationship with someone your own age, even your friends average about 10 years younger than yourself?" I thought about that. I am vibrant and most days forget that I am 47 years old. I'm physically active, I am bored sitting on the couch watching TV every weekend and I like to have a whole lot of fun. I'm not interested in someone retirement account, investments, etc.... Now give me a man that is willing to explore life, do stupid things for fun, get out and play, go to the fair with me and eat cotton candy until we both have a stomach ache and then get on the roller coaster with me...THAT is my kind of man. Not to say that all men in their late 40's are like that, but many have gotten so wrapped up in the day to day worries of life that they miss the fun.
This got me to thinking. WHY had I boxed myself in? Why was I limiting my options and why had I labeled myself in such a way. Well...because I was still stuck in the old societal role of being a "good girl". Good girls are what society deems acceptable. Trust me, I am not that girl. I have a couple of tattoos and will likely get more. I have piercings that make my siblings cringe at the mention of them, I have a weird job based on the standards of others. So why oh why would I live up to others standards when I date?
I realized for myself this has been how I have lived most of my life. Trying to please others before myself and that is exactly how I found myself searching for my own identity when my "acceptable" marriage fell to pieces and I was left on my own with absolutely nothing. It's time for the good girl to go back to a place of a "comfortable" life and I'll get on with a life that brings me joy everyday.
What part of your life are you living to please others while selling yourself short? Where are you blocking yourself from fully embracing your goddess because others might not approve? Are you happy doing that? Most of us don't change everything overnight and honestly if we did, we would likely scare ourselves so bad that we would never move forward. BUT...I urge you to find one small thing in your life that you have compromised, buried, ignored or just plain rejected because of what others might think and give yourself a chance to change that small piece to doing it one YOUR TERMS!
Live With Passion
~Bel
First, I tried a dating site that simply made me cringe. For me there has to be a connection with someone a "real time/real life" connection. Online dating felt more like a job interview and quite honestly, I went on one date and was done with it.
It probably didn't help that I had a specific age group in mind along with about a million other things. A couple of month back I was a asked out by someone significantly younger than myself and to my greater surprise, I agreed. I had sworn, I would never ever be a "cougar". While this did not turn into happily ever after, it was a wonderful experience with a wonderful man to whom I owe a huge debt of gratitude. He treated me well, I had a great deal of fun and in the end we parted on very good terms.
Not long after I met him, I was expressing all of my worries and my assumption that this would be a good time for a short time because there is no way someone so much younger could possibly be interested in someone my age for anything serious. The joy of really good friends is they call you on your crap. My friend asked me "WHY would you be so set on a relationship with someone your own age, even your friends average about 10 years younger than yourself?" I thought about that. I am vibrant and most days forget that I am 47 years old. I'm physically active, I am bored sitting on the couch watching TV every weekend and I like to have a whole lot of fun. I'm not interested in someone retirement account, investments, etc.... Now give me a man that is willing to explore life, do stupid things for fun, get out and play, go to the fair with me and eat cotton candy until we both have a stomach ache and then get on the roller coaster with me...THAT is my kind of man. Not to say that all men in their late 40's are like that, but many have gotten so wrapped up in the day to day worries of life that they miss the fun.
This got me to thinking. WHY had I boxed myself in? Why was I limiting my options and why had I labeled myself in such a way. Well...because I was still stuck in the old societal role of being a "good girl". Good girls are what society deems acceptable. Trust me, I am not that girl. I have a couple of tattoos and will likely get more. I have piercings that make my siblings cringe at the mention of them, I have a weird job based on the standards of others. So why oh why would I live up to others standards when I date?
I realized for myself this has been how I have lived most of my life. Trying to please others before myself and that is exactly how I found myself searching for my own identity when my "acceptable" marriage fell to pieces and I was left on my own with absolutely nothing. It's time for the good girl to go back to a place of a "comfortable" life and I'll get on with a life that brings me joy everyday.
What part of your life are you living to please others while selling yourself short? Where are you blocking yourself from fully embracing your goddess because others might not approve? Are you happy doing that? Most of us don't change everything overnight and honestly if we did, we would likely scare ourselves so bad that we would never move forward. BUT...I urge you to find one small thing in your life that you have compromised, buried, ignored or just plain rejected because of what others might think and give yourself a chance to change that small piece to doing it one YOUR TERMS!
Live With Passion
~Bel
Sunday, May 19, 2013
Your Feelings Matter: Lessons From My Daughter
My greatest joy, love and teacher is my almost 19 year old daughter. She is also a reminder of just how wrong some of the examples I set for her as she grew up actually were for her.
Today, I had a conversation with her about her current relationship. Sadly, I see her repeating mistakes from my past. Lessons that I have learned and refuse to ever accept in my life again, but now I can only stand back watch, pray and offer what insight I can in a gentle yet not invasive way to her.
It seems the young man in my daughters life finds it acceptable to disregard her feelings and then when she reacts to this bad behavior on his part he becomes angry at her and tells her how and why she is the one in the wrong. There appears to be a lack of balance as she is expected to accommodate his feelings, his attitudes, his beliefs, etc... yet hers are not important or considered.
This is painful for me as a mom for so many reasons. First of course, is she is my baby and how dare someone not appreciate her for the amazing person she is but that is the mom in me. The woman who has been through this also hurts to see this behavior because I know what it feels like.
I know what it means to have your feelings not matter, to be disregarded and told that you are over-reacting, foolish, crazy, wrong and so many other insults thrown at you to justify bad behavior.
Having come to a point in my life, I wish I could show every person out there that your feelings do matter and anyone who does not validate and honor those feelings is not someone that you want to be with.
So, as you are on your journey of Reclaiming The Goddess Within you, start by expecting and demanding that your feelings do matter. Do not accept or allow anyone to belittle you for having those feelings. Nobody is so wonderful that you should feel bad about yourself.
I do know that is not always easy to do. It takes time and practice. It takes knowing within you that your feelings matter. As you begin to find ways to do this, you will find it gets easier to do. Not everyone is going to like that you are standing up for yourself and I can promise you that there will be times that is will be very uncomfortable, I can also promise you that if you do this consistently, in time you will find that someone disregarding your feelings is much more uncomfortable.
I have included an EFT tapping audio at the bottom of this post to help you along in beginning this step of your journey. You will need to know the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping points in order to follow along. If you don't know them, simply search on Youtube and search EFT Tapping points. You will find MANY videos that show you the points. It's very simple to follow along. I would love your thoughts, ideas, suggestions about this audio or upcoming audios that you would like me to create in the future.
Live With Passion
~Bel
Today, I had a conversation with her about her current relationship. Sadly, I see her repeating mistakes from my past. Lessons that I have learned and refuse to ever accept in my life again, but now I can only stand back watch, pray and offer what insight I can in a gentle yet not invasive way to her.
It seems the young man in my daughters life finds it acceptable to disregard her feelings and then when she reacts to this bad behavior on his part he becomes angry at her and tells her how and why she is the one in the wrong. There appears to be a lack of balance as she is expected to accommodate his feelings, his attitudes, his beliefs, etc... yet hers are not important or considered.
This is painful for me as a mom for so many reasons. First of course, is she is my baby and how dare someone not appreciate her for the amazing person she is but that is the mom in me. The woman who has been through this also hurts to see this behavior because I know what it feels like.
I know what it means to have your feelings not matter, to be disregarded and told that you are over-reacting, foolish, crazy, wrong and so many other insults thrown at you to justify bad behavior.
Having come to a point in my life, I wish I could show every person out there that your feelings do matter and anyone who does not validate and honor those feelings is not someone that you want to be with.
So, as you are on your journey of Reclaiming The Goddess Within you, start by expecting and demanding that your feelings do matter. Do not accept or allow anyone to belittle you for having those feelings. Nobody is so wonderful that you should feel bad about yourself.
I do know that is not always easy to do. It takes time and practice. It takes knowing within you that your feelings matter. As you begin to find ways to do this, you will find it gets easier to do. Not everyone is going to like that you are standing up for yourself and I can promise you that there will be times that is will be very uncomfortable, I can also promise you that if you do this consistently, in time you will find that someone disregarding your feelings is much more uncomfortable.
I have included an EFT tapping audio at the bottom of this post to help you along in beginning this step of your journey. You will need to know the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping points in order to follow along. If you don't know them, simply search on Youtube and search EFT Tapping points. You will find MANY videos that show you the points. It's very simple to follow along. I would love your thoughts, ideas, suggestions about this audio or upcoming audios that you would like me to create in the future.
Live With Passion
~Bel
Friday, May 17, 2013
Who I Am And Why I Do What I Do
I have a confession to make. I have been going about this all wrong! I have been listening to coaches, friends, business associates, people on the internet, etc... about HOW to get my message across. I've been told to maintain a professional image, don't tell too much about yourself, blah, blah. BLAAAAH!
I have come to a realization about this and here it is: I am asking you to trust me with you greatest fears, your fondest dreams and yes, sometimes even your deepest darkest secrets. Yet, I am supposed to maintain this "image"? Sorry, but that is not who I am and that is not why I do what I do.
So, get a cup of coffee, tea, a margarita and sit back because I am going to tell you who I am, where I came from and WHY I do what I do today.
I am 47 years old, twice divorced and the mom to an incredible daughter who will be 19 at the end of this month. This daughter is not mine biologically, she came into my life on in 1996 just shy of her 2nd birthday. Her daddy was the man I had fallen in love with and she was part of the deal. Today, she is my daughter in every sense of the word by her choice as well as mine. I am honored that she still chooses to call me her mom.
My mother was barely 18 when I was born and my father had already taken off. Mom tells the story that she went into labor when she got the call that my father had escaped from jail.
When I was 8 months old, my mother dumped me at my grandparents and left. The first 4 years of my life are filled with memories of love, family and security but at the age of 4 that changed. My mother had remarried and reclaimed her rights to me.
It was shortly thereafter that I was beaten the first time with a belt for dropping a glass in the sink. This certainly wouldn't be last and it was by far not the worst beating. CPS was in and out of our home for most of my childhood, which only served to ignite my mother's anger and make things worse. I was told on a regular basis that she hated me, wished I would die and I was often referred to as either "bitch" or "the parasite". I was terrified of her and truly there was little I could do to prevent her rage.
At the age of 13 my mother divorced my step-father and got involved with a man who 35 years later is still in her life though she swears she hates him. He found that little girls were much more appealing to him than grown women and for the next 3 years he molested me. I knew if I spoke up my mother would throw me out long before she would do anything to protect. It finally got to be too much between the beatings and the hatred from her and this man doing the unspeakable to me in the middle of the night. On the last day of 10th grade I left school and went to the local police station and told what he had done to me. The system was different then and they left my mother alone with me. After threats and manipulation, I recanted my story and was sent to live with my biological father.
At the age of 17 I met a man 20 years my senior, fresh out of prison for assault on a woman and child and moved in with him. He promptly began hitting me, calling me names, etc... I married him 2 years later and it took me years to see that I had married my mother. He physically and emotionally abused me but the breaking point for me was the day he grabbed me by the hair threw me on the floor and forced himself on me all the while explaining that he owned me. It took me 12 years and severe damage to my psyche to get out but I did get out. I had to get a protection order against him and it was almost 2 more years before he was finally gone from my life as stalking is hard to prove.
Shortly after I met my second husband. He never hit me and when we were good we were very good but he also knew how to get what he wanted from me. I spent the next 11 years trying to be "good enough" for a man that nothing would ever be good enough. To add to this, he was a National Guard member and shortly after my 39th birthday he was deployed to Iraq. 14 months of hell does not even begin cover it. When he returned we both had PTSD and 2 years later the marriage ended. It was ugly, it was painful and it was a wake up call. I had been wife and mom for 11 years with no identity outside of that. I had no clue what made "me" happy, I had no idea who I was, what I was or what I wanted.
I found myself in the metaphysical world and in that, I found a peace I had never known, but I still had my PTSD pop up, I still had no self-esteem, self confidence or anything else that was good about me. I had lost 40 lbs after the divorce without dieting and ate what I wanted when I wanted, I looked better than I had in years and I felt physically better than I ever remembered feeling. Yet, I still hated myself. I did not feel attractive or worthwhile and for that reason I hid out in my apartment. Given I have suffered from social anxiety most of my adult life, this was safe for me.
A friend suggested this strange thing called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that I honestly thought was a BS scam in the beginning. I laughed at it but tried it anyway so I could tell my friend I tried. I was stunned at how quickly my stress level dropped when I began to tap. Hmmmm there might be something to this thing. I began to use it consistently and found that my nightmares were suddenly less. I began reading and listening to everything I could get my hands on. I discovered EFT had been effective with those who suffer from PTSD and I became determined to train in this modality. I found that one of the pioneers of the PTSD work was offering EFT training in Minnesota so I scraped up money I really didn't have and flew to Minnesota and trained in level 1 and 2 EFT. This changed my life, it changed me and it has changed the people in my life.
PTSD is now a thing of the past for me. Lack of confidence? Well, I can still see the lines in my face and wish my butt was smaller but I am comfortable in my own skin, I even date (trust me this was a HUGE thing for someone who had not dated in the 3 years since my divorce). I quit trying to be the good wife, the good daughter, the good anything and decided to be what makes me happy.
I found the more I allowed myself to just be myself without excuses or apologies the more that I began to feel attractive, sexy, sensual and just awesome. I also began to see how much of myself I had repressed through the years trying to be what others wanted me to be. It took me time to see that it wasn't about my age, weight or background that made me attractive but it was ME!
I began to notice that most women struggle with that part of them that is truly who they are and it broke my heart. We are the ones setting the standards for future generations, we hold it together, we take care of everyone and we tend to put who and what we are on the back burner. I knew I did not want this same fate for my daughter and I became determined to set an example for her. But that wasn't enough. To see so many women dim that magical light inside of themselves just hurts me to watch it and do nothing.
So why I do what I do? Because I KNOW what it feels like to not be happy, to not feel good about myself and to allow what others think I should be run my life.
Reclaiming The Goddess Within is not to turn you into an exotic dancer (unless that is your dream) but to help you bring out who you are, what makes you happy and help you be perfectly OK in being all the things you are capable of.
I do this because I have made it my mission in life to help other women find that part of themselves that they feel they either lost or never had and help you find a way to shine that very unique light that yours. For each woman that is a different. For some it just means finding time to spend time alone walking through the park for others that means being sexy. The Goddess is not about sex, the Goddess is about being the woman that you have hidden for far too long. Some Goddesses are quiet and some are loud. Regardless, what being a Goddess means is a very personal and unique experience but for all of us it means learning to embrace ourselves for the amazing beings that we are.
I thank you for taking the time to read this and for holding the space that gives me a safe place to share my story. I will tell you now that I am not a survivor. I am a women who like most women has had challenges in my life, I got through them, just as I know you have gotten through your challenges. Sometimes it was ugly and messy and rarely did I actually manage it with grace, but I still got through and I am who I am because of these things. I am not a survivor but I am a woman who has made the choice to live my life and soak it up for all it has to offer. If you are reading this, I do not want your pity or your praise but I certainly hope that somewhere in this you have found something to inspire you to be exactly who you are without limits.
Live With Passion
~Bel
I have come to a realization about this and here it is: I am asking you to trust me with you greatest fears, your fondest dreams and yes, sometimes even your deepest darkest secrets. Yet, I am supposed to maintain this "image"? Sorry, but that is not who I am and that is not why I do what I do.
So, get a cup of coffee, tea, a margarita and sit back because I am going to tell you who I am, where I came from and WHY I do what I do today.
I am 47 years old, twice divorced and the mom to an incredible daughter who will be 19 at the end of this month. This daughter is not mine biologically, she came into my life on in 1996 just shy of her 2nd birthday. Her daddy was the man I had fallen in love with and she was part of the deal. Today, she is my daughter in every sense of the word by her choice as well as mine. I am honored that she still chooses to call me her mom.
My mother was barely 18 when I was born and my father had already taken off. Mom tells the story that she went into labor when she got the call that my father had escaped from jail.
When I was 8 months old, my mother dumped me at my grandparents and left. The first 4 years of my life are filled with memories of love, family and security but at the age of 4 that changed. My mother had remarried and reclaimed her rights to me.
It was shortly thereafter that I was beaten the first time with a belt for dropping a glass in the sink. This certainly wouldn't be last and it was by far not the worst beating. CPS was in and out of our home for most of my childhood, which only served to ignite my mother's anger and make things worse. I was told on a regular basis that she hated me, wished I would die and I was often referred to as either "bitch" or "the parasite". I was terrified of her and truly there was little I could do to prevent her rage.
At the age of 13 my mother divorced my step-father and got involved with a man who 35 years later is still in her life though she swears she hates him. He found that little girls were much more appealing to him than grown women and for the next 3 years he molested me. I knew if I spoke up my mother would throw me out long before she would do anything to protect. It finally got to be too much between the beatings and the hatred from her and this man doing the unspeakable to me in the middle of the night. On the last day of 10th grade I left school and went to the local police station and told what he had done to me. The system was different then and they left my mother alone with me. After threats and manipulation, I recanted my story and was sent to live with my biological father.
At the age of 17 I met a man 20 years my senior, fresh out of prison for assault on a woman and child and moved in with him. He promptly began hitting me, calling me names, etc... I married him 2 years later and it took me years to see that I had married my mother. He physically and emotionally abused me but the breaking point for me was the day he grabbed me by the hair threw me on the floor and forced himself on me all the while explaining that he owned me. It took me 12 years and severe damage to my psyche to get out but I did get out. I had to get a protection order against him and it was almost 2 more years before he was finally gone from my life as stalking is hard to prove.
Shortly after I met my second husband. He never hit me and when we were good we were very good but he also knew how to get what he wanted from me. I spent the next 11 years trying to be "good enough" for a man that nothing would ever be good enough. To add to this, he was a National Guard member and shortly after my 39th birthday he was deployed to Iraq. 14 months of hell does not even begin cover it. When he returned we both had PTSD and 2 years later the marriage ended. It was ugly, it was painful and it was a wake up call. I had been wife and mom for 11 years with no identity outside of that. I had no clue what made "me" happy, I had no idea who I was, what I was or what I wanted.
I found myself in the metaphysical world and in that, I found a peace I had never known, but I still had my PTSD pop up, I still had no self-esteem, self confidence or anything else that was good about me. I had lost 40 lbs after the divorce without dieting and ate what I wanted when I wanted, I looked better than I had in years and I felt physically better than I ever remembered feeling. Yet, I still hated myself. I did not feel attractive or worthwhile and for that reason I hid out in my apartment. Given I have suffered from social anxiety most of my adult life, this was safe for me.
A friend suggested this strange thing called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that I honestly thought was a BS scam in the beginning. I laughed at it but tried it anyway so I could tell my friend I tried. I was stunned at how quickly my stress level dropped when I began to tap. Hmmmm there might be something to this thing. I began to use it consistently and found that my nightmares were suddenly less. I began reading and listening to everything I could get my hands on. I discovered EFT had been effective with those who suffer from PTSD and I became determined to train in this modality. I found that one of the pioneers of the PTSD work was offering EFT training in Minnesota so I scraped up money I really didn't have and flew to Minnesota and trained in level 1 and 2 EFT. This changed my life, it changed me and it has changed the people in my life.
PTSD is now a thing of the past for me. Lack of confidence? Well, I can still see the lines in my face and wish my butt was smaller but I am comfortable in my own skin, I even date (trust me this was a HUGE thing for someone who had not dated in the 3 years since my divorce). I quit trying to be the good wife, the good daughter, the good anything and decided to be what makes me happy.
I found the more I allowed myself to just be myself without excuses or apologies the more that I began to feel attractive, sexy, sensual and just awesome. I also began to see how much of myself I had repressed through the years trying to be what others wanted me to be. It took me time to see that it wasn't about my age, weight or background that made me attractive but it was ME!
I began to notice that most women struggle with that part of them that is truly who they are and it broke my heart. We are the ones setting the standards for future generations, we hold it together, we take care of everyone and we tend to put who and what we are on the back burner. I knew I did not want this same fate for my daughter and I became determined to set an example for her. But that wasn't enough. To see so many women dim that magical light inside of themselves just hurts me to watch it and do nothing.
So why I do what I do? Because I KNOW what it feels like to not be happy, to not feel good about myself and to allow what others think I should be run my life.
Reclaiming The Goddess Within is not to turn you into an exotic dancer (unless that is your dream) but to help you bring out who you are, what makes you happy and help you be perfectly OK in being all the things you are capable of.
I do this because I have made it my mission in life to help other women find that part of themselves that they feel they either lost or never had and help you find a way to shine that very unique light that yours. For each woman that is a different. For some it just means finding time to spend time alone walking through the park for others that means being sexy. The Goddess is not about sex, the Goddess is about being the woman that you have hidden for far too long. Some Goddesses are quiet and some are loud. Regardless, what being a Goddess means is a very personal and unique experience but for all of us it means learning to embrace ourselves for the amazing beings that we are.
I thank you for taking the time to read this and for holding the space that gives me a safe place to share my story. I will tell you now that I am not a survivor. I am a women who like most women has had challenges in my life, I got through them, just as I know you have gotten through your challenges. Sometimes it was ugly and messy and rarely did I actually manage it with grace, but I still got through and I am who I am because of these things. I am not a survivor but I am a woman who has made the choice to live my life and soak it up for all it has to offer. If you are reading this, I do not want your pity or your praise but I certainly hope that somewhere in this you have found something to inspire you to be exactly who you are without limits.
Live With Passion
~Bel
Monday, January 14, 2013
Holidays, Work, Rebuilding And Lots Of Fun Stuff!
It's been some time since I have posted. It seems the holidays took over and I managed to get myself overwhelmed in quick order.
The holidays included a few holiday parties that I attended, making gifts (yes, I do handmade gifts and prefer those over anything in receiving gifts) and an Apocalypse Afterparty at my house. Technically, it was reviving our grandfather's Christmas Eve bash but my brother and I decided to add a little twist to it and have some fun with the whole 2012 thing.
My youngest brother moved to Chicago, so I am hoping to visit there soon. Believe it or not living so close to Chicago I have never been there!
Adding to all the holiday fun, I found that I had to wipe out my entire website and begin rebuilding it. That is at the top of the agenda for today. Keep an eye out as I am going to add some new things, I will be posting a link for newsletter sign up which will include a free tapping audio so you can get a feel for how tapping works and what it does.
In the process of all of my holiday gift making, I remembered how MUCH I love making bath and body products and things that make the house smell good. I have decided to start making some of these items for sale and guess what??? YOU my lovely reader have a chance to actually get a free sample of something that smells wonderful for your house/car/vacuum. All I ask in return is your feedback on the item. Do you like it? Would you purchase it? Etc... I even pay the shipping and handling for you. Are you interested? Then email me at bel.marshall@yahoo.com
I'll give free samples to the first 5 people who email me.
What does all of this have to do with being a Goddess?
Well, nothing and everything.
Being a Goddess means being in that place that is right for you. Living your bliss, being passionate in all that you do and lighting that inner spark that makes you magical. For me, even with the website snafu. I am in a place that brings me joy with people that bring me joy. THAT is what being a Goddess is ALL ABOUT! It doesn't matter how you do it as long as you feel it.
Last but not least! I am soooo soooooooooooo soooooooooooooooooo excited. Did I mention that I am excited? The World Tapping Summit 2013 has kicked off today. It begins with an incredible video with Louise Hay. I encourage you to watch the video and follow along with Louise. If you don't know who to tap just follow what Louise and Nick do and also there is a tapping video by Jessica Ortner on the site that shows you all the points. Try this, you will love it!!!!
So there is a lot of catch up today and I am excited to get things moving again. I will be reviving the radio show in just a couple of weeks as well. If you have any suggestions for topics, guests, etc... please email me. and remember also email if you want a sample of something that smells good! bel.marshall@yahoo.com
Live With Passion!
Bel
The holidays included a few holiday parties that I attended, making gifts (yes, I do handmade gifts and prefer those over anything in receiving gifts) and an Apocalypse Afterparty at my house. Technically, it was reviving our grandfather's Christmas Eve bash but my brother and I decided to add a little twist to it and have some fun with the whole 2012 thing.
My youngest brother moved to Chicago, so I am hoping to visit there soon. Believe it or not living so close to Chicago I have never been there!
Adding to all the holiday fun, I found that I had to wipe out my entire website and begin rebuilding it. That is at the top of the agenda for today. Keep an eye out as I am going to add some new things, I will be posting a link for newsletter sign up which will include a free tapping audio so you can get a feel for how tapping works and what it does.
In the process of all of my holiday gift making, I remembered how MUCH I love making bath and body products and things that make the house smell good. I have decided to start making some of these items for sale and guess what??? YOU my lovely reader have a chance to actually get a free sample of something that smells wonderful for your house/car/vacuum. All I ask in return is your feedback on the item. Do you like it? Would you purchase it? Etc... I even pay the shipping and handling for you. Are you interested? Then email me at bel.marshall@yahoo.com
I'll give free samples to the first 5 people who email me.
What does all of this have to do with being a Goddess?
Well, nothing and everything.
Being a Goddess means being in that place that is right for you. Living your bliss, being passionate in all that you do and lighting that inner spark that makes you magical. For me, even with the website snafu. I am in a place that brings me joy with people that bring me joy. THAT is what being a Goddess is ALL ABOUT! It doesn't matter how you do it as long as you feel it.
Last but not least! I am soooo soooooooooooo soooooooooooooooooo excited. Did I mention that I am excited? The World Tapping Summit 2013 has kicked off today. It begins with an incredible video with Louise Hay. I encourage you to watch the video and follow along with Louise. If you don't know who to tap just follow what Louise and Nick do and also there is a tapping video by Jessica Ortner on the site that shows you all the points. Try this, you will love it!!!!
So there is a lot of catch up today and I am excited to get things moving again. I will be reviving the radio show in just a couple of weeks as well. If you have any suggestions for topics, guests, etc... please email me. and remember also email if you want a sample of something that smells good! bel.marshall@yahoo.com
Live With Passion!
Bel
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