My greatest joy, love and teacher is my almost 19 year old daughter. She is also a reminder of just how wrong some of the examples I set for her as she grew up actually were for her.
Today, I had a conversation with her about her current relationship. Sadly, I see her repeating mistakes from my past. Lessons that I have learned and refuse to ever accept in my life again, but now I can only stand back watch, pray and offer what insight I can in a gentle yet not invasive way to her.
It seems the young man in my daughters life finds it acceptable to disregard her feelings and then when she reacts to this bad behavior on his part he becomes angry at her and tells her how and why she is the one in the wrong. There appears to be a lack of balance as she is expected to accommodate his feelings, his attitudes, his beliefs, etc... yet hers are not important or considered.
This is painful for me as a mom for so many reasons. First of course, is she is my baby and how dare someone not appreciate her for the amazing person she is but that is the mom in me. The woman who has been through this also hurts to see this behavior because I know what it feels like.
I know what it means to have your feelings not matter, to be disregarded and told that you are over-reacting, foolish, crazy, wrong and so many other insults thrown at you to justify bad behavior.
Having come to a point in my life, I wish I could show every person out there that your feelings do matter and anyone who does not validate and honor those feelings is not someone that you want to be with.
So, as you are on your journey of Reclaiming The Goddess Within you, start by expecting and demanding that your feelings do matter. Do not accept or allow anyone to belittle you for having those feelings. Nobody is so wonderful that you should feel bad about yourself.
I do know that is not always easy to do. It takes time and practice. It takes knowing within you that your feelings matter. As you begin to find ways to do this, you will find it gets easier to do. Not everyone is going to like that you are standing up for yourself and I can promise you that there will be times that is will be very uncomfortable, I can also promise you that if you do this consistently, in time you will find that someone disregarding your feelings is much more uncomfortable.
I have included an EFT tapping audio at the bottom of this post to help you along in beginning this step of your journey. You will need to know the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping points in order to follow along. If you don't know them, simply search on Youtube and search EFT Tapping points. You will find MANY videos that show you the points. It's very simple to follow along. I would love your thoughts, ideas, suggestions about this audio or upcoming audios that you would like me to create in the future.
Live With Passion
~Bel
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